I shared one of the tweets in my Twitter thread (about an ex-colleague who asked another ex-colleague, whom he did not have a smooth working relationship with, for a LinkedIn recommendation) as my WhatsApp status and one of the chats I got is worth sharing as a blog post.
I know my identity and accept my space But then she knows my style is effective and acknowledges it sometimes.
My first boss made me contemplate suicide and almost not marry my husband by speaking hurtful words to me. I don’t want that for anyone at all. All in the name of meeting targets and getting promotion.
One of my people had been complaining of not feeling well. My general recommendation usually is “Go to the hospital”. After saying it a few times without results, I caned my lane.
I’m not sure what finally got through to her but God being so gracious, she finally decided to go to the hospital. She had been self-medicating, treating malaria. After a series of tests, she was diagnosed with low blood count (abi something like that).
After a few days of adhering to the doctor’s instructions, she felt better. Somebody shout alleluia! To God be the glory.
The driver of the taxi I boarded yesterday was complaining about one strange headache that came suddenly. We were both stuck in the vehicle anyway, so I took time to advise him about going to the hospital asap. I pray he takes heed.
All of you that will be concocting medicine upandan as a DIY personally trained doctor… It’s all “fun” till you damage a vital organ…
If you are not feeling well, head to the hospital… This life is only one o… Don’t use your own hand to do yourself…
I repeat, if you don’t feel well, DO NOT TREAT YOURSELF BY YOURSELF… Head to the hospital! You will be alright by God’s grace.
Those of you cooking meat with paracetamol, una don hear about person wey village people dey pursue and him/her sef come dey use “slow motion” run. Won ma get e…. Dem go catch am…
Don’t let village people win this match. One of my lecturers once told us that every drug is poison; use only when absolutely required.
The Miles Morland Foundation invites applications from African Writers, with the aim being to allow each Scholar the time to produce the first draft of a completed book. The Scholarships are open to anyone writing in the English language who was born in Africa or both of whose parents were born in Africa.
At the end of each month scholars must send the Foundation 10,000 new words that they will have written over the course of the month. Scholars are also asked to donate to the MMF 20% of whatever they subsequently receive from the book they write during the period of their Scholarship. This includes revenues as a result of film rights, serialisations or other ancillary revenues arising from the book written during the Scholarship period. These funds will be used to support other promising writers. The 20% return obligation should be considered a debt of honour rather than a legally binding obligation.
To qualify for the Scholarship a candidate must submit an excerpt from a piece of work of between 2,000 – 5,000 words, written in English that has been published and offered for sale, you must send clear evidence that the piece you upload as part of your application has been both published AND offered for sale. This will be evaluated by a panel of readers and judges set up by the MMF. The work submitted will be judged purely on literary merit. It is not the purpose of the Scholarships to support academic or scientific research, or works of special interest such as religious or political writings. Submissions or proposals of this nature do not qualify.
Applications will be received between 1st July 2022 and 18th September 2022. Applications submitted outside that period will not be looked at.
Question How does one differentiate between typical toddler tantrums and a child with autistic tendencies?
Tantrums are temporary while the tendencies of autism are sort of permanent or consistent
Tantrums are not signs that a child may have autism, but if the child shows symptoms of autism, and then throw tantrums, we can then differentiate between tantrums and what we call meltdowns.
Gbemisola B. Tantrums are not the only features of Autism spectrum disorder. In addition to the tantrums there WILL BE OTHER SYMPTOMS. One of which commonly is COMMUNICATION DEFICIT. In toddlers the social communication delay often manifesting as speech delay and/or repetitive restricted patterns of behaviors are the usual common symptoms first observed by parents and caregivers. Possible “Red Flags”
A person with ASD might:
• Not respond to their name by 12 months of age • Not point at objects to show interest (point at an airplane flying over) by 14 months • Not play “pretend” games (pretend to “feed” a doll) by 18 months • Avoid eye contact and want to be alone • Have trouble understanding other people’s feelings or talking about their own feelings • Have delayed speech and language skills • Repeat words or phrases over and over (echolalia) • Give unrelated answers to questions • Get upset by minor changes • Have obsessive interests • Flap their hands, rock their body, or spin in circles • Have unusual reactions to the way things sound, smell, taste, look, or feel. Social Skills Social issues are one of the most common symptoms in all of the types of ASD. People with an ASD do not have just social “difficulties” like shyness. The social issues they have cause serious problems in everyday life.
Examples of social issues related to ASD:
• Does not respond to name by 12 months of age • Avoids eye-contact • Prefers to play alone • Does not share interests with others • Only interacts to achieve a desired goal • Has flat or inappropriate facial expressions • Does not understand personal space boundaries • Avoids or resists physical contact • Is not comforted by others during distress • Has trouble understanding other people’s feelings or talking about own feelings
Each person with ASD has different communication skills. Some people can speak well. Others can’t speak at all or only very little. About 40% of children with an ASD do not talk at all. About 25%–30% of children with ASD have some words at 12 to 18 months of age and then lose them. Others might speak, but not until later in childhood.
Examples of communication issues related to ASD:
• Delayed speech and language skills • Repeats words or phrases over and over (echolalia) • Reverses pronouns (e.g., says “you” instead of “I”) • Gives unrelated answers to questions • Does not point or respond to pointing • Uses few or no gestures (e.g., does not wave goodbye) • Talks in a flat, robot-like, or sing-song voice • Does not pretend in play (e.g., does not pretend to “feed” a doll) • Does not understand jokes, sarcasm, or teasing
Unusual Interests and Behaviors
Many people with ASD have unusual interest or behaviors.
Examples of unusual interests and behaviors related to ASD:
• Lines up toys or other objects • Plays with toys the same way every time • Likes parts of objects (e.g., wheels) • Is very organized • Gets upset by minor changes • Has obsessive interests • Has to follow certain routines • Flaps hands, rocks body, or spins self in circles
Some people with ASD have other symptoms. These might include:
•Hyperactivity (very active) • Impulsivity (acting without thinking) • Short attention span • Aggression • Causing self injury • Temper tantrums • Unusual eating and sleeping habits • Unusual mood or emotional reactions • Lack of fear or more fear than expected • Unusual reactions to the way things sound, smell, taste, look, or feel
Kemi K A tantrum can be stopped or controlled by either the parent or the child. A meltdown can not. The autism spectrum is vast and a combination of symptoms will give a diagnosis. One single “symptom” does not mean a child is autistic. If all other development markers are hit, it is very unlikely that the singular issue of meltdowns will lead to a diagnosis.
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I came back from work a few months ago and Great Madam, the Princess Chef (GMPC) started going on and on about Golden Penny Instant Noodles Jollof Flavour. I asked her how she learnt about it and she said she saw the advert on TV.
She would daily talk about how she can’t stop thinking about the Golden Penny Instant Noodles Jollof Flavour. She told everyone that it concerned and those it did not concern. We mentioned it to the lady we buy stuff from in the “adugbo”. We got a carton of the regular Golden Penny Instant Noodles as a Christmas gift so GMPC had mentioned yesterday that we could try to create the Jollof Noodles from the regular Golden Penny Noodles and have that for lunch today. I went to buy some sharpeners from the lady we buy stuff from in the “adugbo” when all the sharpeners in the house developed wings and flew away. The girl in the shop mentioned that they now had the Golden Penny Instant Noodles Jollof Flavour. That’s how I bought two packs to try out and the short story is that the Golden Penny Instant Noodles Jollof Flavour is actually worth the hype. We have officially switched brands o. Na endorsement deal remain.
Food brands, GMPC is available to be your brand ambassador and affiliate marketer ati be be lo.
I made the payment for my daughter’s school fees today. I’m sure someone would ask “Kini big deal?” Smiles… It’s a big deal to me because this time last year, we had to pay in 3 instalments. We were experiencing “cash flow challenges”, as one of my friends put it.
We had to make a lot of lifestyle changes and do away with frivolities. We may not be exactly where we want to be but we are not where we used to be. For that, I’m grateful.
I guess some are wondering how I managed to share the recharge cards and other “freebies” I was giving in the midst of the cash flow challenges. Hehehehe.
First of all, I made up my mind to resort to asking for help online if and only if I had truly tried everything I could and nothing worked. As we now know, some of the things I tried worked well enough to cover for those that did not.
Secondly, I said “cash flow challenges” because the truth is that the man/woman that is DILIGENT and SKILLFUL will stand before kings, not obscure men. If the skills you currently have cannot pay the bills for now, consider diversification.
Also, I talked about making lifestyle changes. We had to cut our cloth according to our material. We cut out unnecessary expenditure and found opportunities to reduce our spendings on the “essentials” (Eg, a power surge spoilt our DSTV decoder and we somehow got used to GOTv). There is nothing wrong with DSTV ooo, it’s just that the small savings we made by switching to GOTv made a difference… We found small small savings here and there.
We found other streams of income that do not really interfere with our regular jobs. Sure, we need to cut down on our “social time” but I think the gains outweigh the pains.
Finally, God’s mercy is the prevailing factor in all of these things. There were strategies I received for the business streams in the place of prayer. I had and still have my pen and paper constantly with me because strategies keep coming from “above”.
I pray that I will be able to influence and support people currently experiencing “cash flow challenges” to maximize their resources to improve their financial conditions. That’s what drives the many pages, groups and profiles. I really want to help and support people as they maximize their online presence.
I heard Pastor Yemisi Ashimolowo preaching on TV yesterday and she said something that has been ringing in my spirit. She was talking about the story in Mark 4:35-39. She said and I noted that the disciples were in the right place STILL THE STORM CAME.
Many ‘methodical’ Christians cannot deal with this. They are so stuck on Cause and Effect that they can’t deal with the fact that some people who were in the right place at the right time still had to face storms.
I remember talking with someone about a death that really shook me. There was so much ‘Cause and Effect’ so I changed the topic.
I’ve come to realise that many people that make insensitive comments to hurting people do so because they are trying to convince themselves that it can never happen to them.
I love the quote “There goes I but for the grace of God”. You are not enjoying financial freedom simply because of your excellent financial acumen. You are not enjoying a good marriage simply because you do all the things you do. You did not conceive simply because of your ability to correctly calculate your ovulation period. Your excellent career/marriage/pregnancy is primarily because of God’s grace and mercy.
The things we do are necessary but they do not give us the freedom to look down on those dealing with one challenge or the other.
“Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain.” (Psalm 127:1).
Be careful so you don’t end up like Herod who was struck down by an angel because he refused to give glory to God when he gave an excellent speech #BeGuided.
I’ve learnt that God will share His glory with no man. It’s very very easy to cross the line and try to play God in the lives of others. #HeartCheck
Have you heard of the Choluteca Bridge? I hadn’t either, until not so long ago. It’s a 484-metre-long bridge over the river Choluteca in Honduras, in Central America. A region was notorious for storms and hurricanes.
So when they decided to build a new bridge over river Choluteca in 1996, they wanted to ensure it would withstand the extreme weather conditions. A Japanese firm was contracted, and they built a solid bridge, designed to withstand the powerful forces of nature. The new Choluteca bridge – a modern-day marvel of design and engineering was thrown open to the public in 1998. And as people drove from one side of the Choluteca river to the other, they couldn’t help but admire the new bridge. It was Choluteca’s pride and joy.
And in October that year, Hurricane Mitch hit Honduras. There was approximately 1 900mm of rain in four days – the equivalent of what they receive in six months. There was devastation all around. The river Choluteca swelled and flooded the entire region. 7000 people lost their lives. All the bridges in Honduras were destroyed. All, except one. The new Choluteca bridge remained unaffected.
But there was a problem. While the bridge was intact, the road leading to it and the road leaving it was swept away. Leaving no sign that there was once a road there. And that’s not all. The flooding forced the river Choluteca to change course. It created a new channel, and the river now flowed beside the bridge. Not under, but besides the bridge. So while the bridge was strong enough to survive the hurricane, it became a bridge over nothing. A bridge to nowhere.
It happened years ago. But the lesson from the Choluteca bridge is more relevant to us today than ever before. The world is changing in ways we may have never imagined. And the Choluteca Bridge is a terrific metaphor for what can happen to us – our careers, our businesses, our lives – as the world around us gets transformed. Adapt to change. Or else.
As you look at your career, think again before taking one more course that makes you even more of an expert in your area of specialization. That role, that expertise might soon become redundant. Before spending money on refurbishing your old office, pause. Thinking of opening more branches in every nook and corner of the country? Think again. Physical office spaces could soon be a thing of the past.
The challenge for us is that we get focused on creating the best solution to a given problem. We forget that the problem itself might change. We are all focusing on building the strongest, most sophisticated product or service. Without thinking of the possibility that the need could vanish. The market could change. We focus on the bridge. And ignore the possibility that the river underneath could change course. Think about that too. ‘Built to Last’ might have been a popular mantra. But ‘Build to Adapt’ could be the way to go.
You might want to add a picture of the Choluteca Bridge to the paintings that adorn the walls of your classrooms. We need to build a school that can adapt to change. The Theory of Evolution: Charles Darwin, in his studies, found that “It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change”.